HOW IS COACHING DIFFERENT FROM THERAPY?
Coaching is a forward-looking process focused on optimal living and personal fulfillment for the client. In coaching, the emphasis is on growing individuals. Therapy attempts to heal emotional trauma and dysfunction by looking at the past. In therapy, the emphasis is on understanding the origins of thought and behavioral patterns.
IS COACHING RIGHT FOR ME?
Coaching is right for you if you are willing to:
- view your own growth as an indispensable part of having the success you want, on your own terms
- open to discovering new ways of looking at and doing things
- be open and honest with yourself and your coach during your sessions
- take an active role in the multi-faceted coaching process
- be held accountable and take real steps towards what you want (yes, there is homework!)
- prioritize making the time and funds available
HOW DO I KNOW I WILL SEE RESULTS?
Results seen through coaching stem from a combination of two important factors:
- Possessing the motivation and true desire to create the change you want in your life
- Hiring the right coach — one who exhibits the ability to both challenge and support you, and one with whom you are able to be honest, open, and vulnerable.
I recommend spending some time assessing what you really want in your life and from your coaching relationship, and also consulting with a few coaches to find the right fit.
If you would like to consider me in your search for a right fit, please contact me and we will set up a free consultation at your convenience.
I DON’T LOVE TALKING ON THE PHONE. DO MY SESSIONS HAVE TO BE ON THE PHONE?
About 90% of my clients come to me with an initial concern about doing phone sessions, and most of them end up really liking it that way. Doing phone sessions saves precious travel time, is very convenient, and creates an atmosphere for the client that is truly private. Clients report that doing sessions on the phone enables them to fully focus without any distractions. The phone also makes it possible to hire a coach no matter where in the country (or the world!) you live.
If you do live in Manhattan or Brooklyn, I will gladly come to you for in-person sessions starting at double the package price.
FAQs About Ceremony and Ritual Officiating
WHAT IS A “COACH APPROACH”?
A good coach uses a whole variety of skills in a traditional coaching session — deep curiosity, powerful questioning, unbiased listening and reflection, and an ability to partner with the client in drawing out what’s most important and making it come alive. I believe the best coaches help clients access the wisdom of their physical body, soul, and spirit, particularly at decision-making time!
I use the term “Coach Approach” to refer to the use of coaching skills in situations outside of a traditional coaching session, such as in co-creating a special ceremony or leading a workshop.
I approach all of my workshops, rituals, opportunities to officiate, and even my writing with a coach’s mind and heart. So, it doesn’t matter if I’m co-creating a unique Baby Blessing or leading a workshop about Goalkeeping, or working with clients individually on work transition, I’m always being a coach. This means instead of teaching, telling, or doing something to you, I stay really curious about what is already in you, and then help you bring that wisdom to life and make it real.
WHAT IS THE PROCESS LIKE IN PLANNING A CEREMONY?
My Coach Approach respects that sacred ceremonies are, so often, once in a lifetime. With such an investment of time, energy, and sometimes money it is of utmost importance to me that the people involved feel satisfied on a soul level. With that in mind, while I can’t account for my client’s ability to be present at any given time, I can and do set the stage for total presence, lightness, depth, and openness at every planning session and every ritual.
In working with me, I think you’ll find there aren’t too many “have to’s” or “should’s” involved in our planning. Rather, you will get a commitment from me to both challenge and support you in being totally authentic in your process. While I love to share my thoughts and ideas, I’m more interested in yours. Using a Coach Approach, I help you find and cultivate those ideas so that I can use your language and beliefs to create a ceremony that corresponds with your needs, desires, and values.
CAN YOU MARRY MY PARTNER AND ME LEGALLY?
Yes! I am a registered Marriage Officiant and can marry you in almost all 50 states as long as it is legal for you to be married. For same sex couples, I will travel to Washington state to marry you, and I’m confident and hopeful it is only a matter of time until we can do it legally right here in the state of Oregon and everywhere else!
ARE YOU AN INTERDENOMINATIONAL MINISTER?
No, not by title or formal training, although I am willing to incorporate any religious or cultural traditions that you would like to include in your sacred ceremony, as long as they are ethical, egalitarian, and inclusive.
I was raised a Presbyterian, went to Catholic school, am partnered with a Jew, have studied world religions, and am committed to my own ever-deepening spiritual practice which includes daily meditation, yoga, personal soul and ritual work, a multitude of creative outlets, and a deep connection to Mother Earth. I don’t ascribe, officially, to any organized religion, and I borrow freely from a lot of them!
I am a Celebrant. I come to officiating ceremonies by way of my own studies and experiences, and love to help people create truly memorable, unifying occasions. I believe rituals and sacred ceremonies exist, in part, to deepen and explore one’s own spirituality and I believe they can be transformative for everyone present. I mindfully hold this possibility as I help prepare people for their own experience. Read about My Approach to Officiating to learn more.
HOW DO I BOOK?
It’s easy! Set up a free consultation and include the date and location of your event in your message. During the consultation, we will discuss your ideas and your needs, and if we decide we are a good fit, we’ll begin the process of co-creating something unique for you.